YOU ARE NOT ONE!

There are thousands of people around you, you find hundred more everyday; talk or interact with fifty new characters some other day. It is really not possible to know each and every one of them, but you are one. Are you really one? Today, this world exists because of prejudice and so most people intentionally or unintentionally prove that. No, you are not one; you are equal to the number of people who notice you every day, now you will try to create an equation of your amount by putting limits and continuity. Every pair of eye which notices you is controlled by a brain which has a unique sense of prejudice and that prejudice creates a different character of you and hence you are not one.

You are travelling on a bus, you are carrying your bag as you always do and people who create different forms of you notice you mostly because of your dress, your hair and your bag. One day you hit a man with your bag, the man looks at you with disgust as if the hit was intentional. Now he was one of the thousands of people who are around you, yet he thought that the hit was intentional. When do you actually hit a person? You hit a person, either when you are really angry on someone or when you have known that person for years; but he was none of them. Still he thought that the hit was intentional as he had prejudged you, he had predetermined or he had calculated an image of you after the hit, with the help of his prejudice.

Do your friends know you, or do you know your friends? All of us judge each other by the faces and faces are not always real. You behave nicely with some, badly with a few and do not behave at all with some and respective images and impressions are created and hence you are different for different kinds of friends, yet you call them friends or family, just because you know their names and place they come from or the virtual knot that exists. If you have not yet known yourself, how can you afford to know someone else? Do you know yourself? Who are you?

  

Confining the self!

This world is one crazy place and we have made it crazier by creating differences amongst ourselves. We do not believe in humanity anymore, all we care about is religion, caste, sex and money. The differences were created centuries ago and in order to balance those differences people are creating more chaos. There is a very common belief that boys get more freedom than girls and many such differences exist among the two major types of sexes and all those differences were created by some anonymous people.

Let us try to understand this by going through a simple conversation between a girl and a boy;

Boy: I don’t like that girl; she goes out with other boys although she is married.

Girl: I don’t think she is doing anything wrong, why can’t she go out, is it only because she is a girl?

Boy: No, it is not like that.

Girl: Boys can do anything, but if a girl does the same thing, then there are consequences.

Boy: if a married boy, that too my friend would do the same thing, I would not have liked him either. It is not about a boy or a girl.

What do you make out of the conversation? Well there are two angles to the conversation, what the girl is saying is correct and what the boy is trying to say is also not wrong, here comes the point of commotion, if you try to simplify this thing, that will result in a debate and ultimately a virtual fight. If equality can be or could be achieved by everyone doing the same thing then you would not make anyone your ideals. If girls start doing what boys do and what boys do as they think it is cool, then this equality should be straight away thrown in a dustbin. Most of the times we get inspired by the evil things, for instance, people know Bob Marley as an icon of weed but not because of what he did. If boozing around or flirting or going out with random people creates equality then equality should not exist. What boys do is not at all a good thing; there should be a toll at that instead.

Yes, there are many differences and such differences should never exist. Boys can move out at any time of the day but restrictions exist for girls, such differences should not exist as people are changing with time. But ultimately at the end of the day, it is not always about freedom. We were created not only with different body part but also with a different soul and a different thought process; so if the girls start thinking like the boys, can you imagine the consequence? We will have fathers everywhere; we will not find a motherly figure anywhere. Motherly figure does not only mean a chef or a house wife but the touch of a female who is supposed to be a mother would be missing, everything will be harsh and we surely do not want that.

Today boys make ideals like Indra Nooyi, Kiran Bedi, Arundhati Bhattacharya and many more names exist and are increasing every day. You take a name of a male achiever and you will find a female competition, boys find it difficult in the class to score more marks but somewhere with the passage of time and the influence of the virtual world people are forgetting their goals and becoming victims of a disease called wannabism . Success is not only measured financially, it is measured by the effort you are making, by the amount of soul you put in the work and by the dedication and when one starts working for ones dream, these differences get nullified and nothing matters anymore.